At this point we’ve all seen it, the pic of the woman with a pan on her hand and a shocked/terrified toddler, along with the title “I Look Down On Young Women with Husbands and Kids and I’m Not Sorry”. I don’t want to mention the bloggers name and give her any more press or push her blog into further stardom, it’s floating around social media and I’m sure you can find it.
First and foremost the woman has a point. Practically everyone can get married and have children. I don’t really see those as an accomplishment either, more like a rite of passage. That’s not to say it’s not momentous and/or amazing. It still is something that *practically* everyone can do. The author goes on to say throwing parties for things that everyone can do is ridiculous, but I disagree. It is a celebration of a major life event. There is no reason for you not to be excited to start a new chapter in your life. If you want to throw a party for your friend when they travel the world DO IT! For the love of Peter Pan in Neverland NO ONE IS STOPPING YOU! Throw a party every day if you feel like it’s necessary.
Men don’t talk about how hard it is to raise kids, because men don’t do the children raising. In America it is still somewhat socially unacceptable for men to do the child rearing. While the views are becoming more liberal, and it is something that is becoming more common for men to stay home while his wife goes out and ‘brings home the bacon’. The way men were raised decades ago is also changing, they are now being taught to be more sensitive to the women in their life.
I think that women are also changing in regards to what they expect from a man. It is more commonplace now for women to get help around the house stay at home mom or not. Being a parent is one of the most important jobs in the world. Who raised the women that wrote the article? A pack of wolves? Even so, there was a MOM WOLF! And guess what she stays at home!
When I was younger and looking in the future, I never saw myself with kids. I got married young, and I often tell people it’s not a good move. When you marry at a young age, you still have a lot of growing up to do. I was still a baby, and so was my husband, it was tough the first year or 2 trying to figure who were, and the people we were destined to be. There’s a lot you don’t know about yourself when you are so young. We were married 7 long years before E came along and we knew who we were as individuals and as a couple before we introduced another person into our lives. I can honestly say I am probably a sh*tty home maker. I hate cooking, and cleaning and all too often complain about needing a break from the baby and being a stay at home mom. My husband is awesome; he takes turns with our daughter and gives me time to myself when I need it. He helps cook and clean and when he is home helps with everything imaginable. He is the most amazing man I could have ever chosen to have my life with and he would be fine being a stay at home dad.
While I do think that everyone is entitled to their opinion some people should just keep their thought to themselves. If you are ignorant don’t share your thoughts. I would rather this piece of poo sit in the dark corners of the web without a click or share and fall away. And if you disagree with someone’s opinion why give them more publicity? By sharing said post on social media you are sending more traffic this woman’s way. In turn making her more popular and giving her even more notoriety. It doesn’t make a bit of sense. Yes by posting on this topic I am sending some traffic her way, those of you who haven’t heard/read the article will start hunting and she will gain more hits. The real reason people write posts that are ‘controversial’ is to gain more followers through the use of ‘link bait’. The commonly used tactic is to rile people up, causing strong opinions and subsequently click the link and share it. Instead of wasting your time searching that article search Tiny Milk Coma.