There will be a moment when you randomly share your wisdom with another mother or father in the aisles of Target. Or someone will ask your advice and you will spout off a novel instead of answering straight and to the point as you used to before becoming a parent. I swore up and down this would never happen, but alas I can often be found randomly spewing baby advice to anyone who will listen.
You Will come to Regret All the Naps You Didn’t Take
I have never been one to shun a nap, and late in my pregnancy I began to sleep more and more. It was glorious, and I enjoyed the constant sleeping. After E was born I started trying to juggle too many things instead of napping while she was napping. At about 6 months old she started sleeping ‘through the night’ and I was staying up at night taking care of things as well. So I had given in to getting no more than 6 hours of sleep a day. (I’m not as young as I used to be people, I’m telling you I’m a granny in a 26 year old body) Looking back I wish I would have napped and slept more. These days I feel like no matter how much sleep I get now, I will always be tired.
They Grow at the Speed of Light
Literally ‘they grow so fast’. The first few months were a blur, I barely remember things that happened without going back and looking at photos or videos. Once she rolled over it was like a switch flipped and she grew up at the speed of light. E barely learned to sit up, and she was crawling. Then she started pulling up on everything. I kid you not 3 days later she was walking along the furniture and moving from piece to piece with (semi) ease. I anxiously look forward to each day with fear that she might walk.
Being a Parent is Hard Work
For some reason I thought “I have 2 dogs, I can totally manage a baby”. I was incorrect. Babies are very different from pets and the bond that I created with E is on a whole other level from one I’ve had with any other human or animal in my life. I am her everything, protector, caregiver, butt wiper, food bank, friend, enemy, snuggler, bather…well you get the point. No one could really explain to me that being home with a baby all day everyday would be so tough. I wake up every day knowing that I have to take care of this little person, and more often than not there are days with no help. From start to finish I am the only person she will see for the entire day. It’s tough taking on that responsibility. Plus everything you do shapes who she will become as a person. Heavy stuff
It is the Best Thing That Will Ever Happen to You
So here is the mushy love stuff. I wasn’t sure how I would feel about being a mom, I was nervous about loving E more than I love my dogs. It is one of the most rewarding things I have ever done in my life. She is amazing and all mine. After our brief adjustment period and getting to know one another I don’t want to imagine my life without her. I totally remember sleeping in and staying up late, going out to dinner at 8 PM, eating a meal uninterrupted. All that (mostly) doesn’t matter anymore, I have her and she has me. We are inseparable and in love.